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Agar kabhi tumhe rone ka munn ho,
muje awaj dena,
main tumse yun to nahi kehti
ke
main tumhe hasa dungi
lekin itna vadha hai k main
bhi tumhare sath roungi..
Agar kabhi tumhe door bhagne ka munn ho
to
mujhe bulane me hichkichana nahi,
main tumse yun to nahi kehti ke
main
tumhe rok lungi
lekin
itna vadha hai ke main bhi tumhare
sang bhagne lagungi..
Agar kabhi tum kisi ko bhi nahi sunna chaho
mujhe bulana mera vadha hai tumse
main bilkul chup rahungi..
Lakin......
Agar kabhi tum mujhe bulao or main awaj
nahi dun to jaldi mere pas aaker mujhe dekhna,
shayad mujhe tumhari jarurat hai..
Love always.
Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company, his future didn’t seem too bright, they were very happy together. Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualize any future for the both of them, so they went their own ways there and then…
Bhula dena mujheHai alvida tujheTujhe jeena hai mere binaSafar yeh tera, yeh raasta teraTujhe jeena hai mere binaHo teri saari shoharateinHai yeh duaa..Tujhi pe saari rehmateinHai yeh duaa..Tujhe jeena hai mere binaBhula dena mujheHai alvida tujheTujhe jeena hai mere binaTu hi hai kinaara tera
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Mohabbat Ek Dard Hai, Na Btayi Ja Sake, Na Bhulayi Ja Sake
Khud ko jo yun de diya hai
Teri wafa ne mujhko sambhala
Saare ghamon ko dil se nikala
Tere saath mera hai naseeb juda
Tujhe paake adhoora naa raha...
Friends Comments please ...
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DiL HoTE J0 MeRE SiNE MaI Do, DuSrA DiL BhI DeTA TuMhE ThOdHNe Ko
♥ ..Awsome Story - Must Read.. ♥
1 ladka 1 ladki ko bahut pyar karta tha
1 Din wo himmat kar ke uss ke pass gya aur bola :-
Boy :- Hi
Girl :-Hi
Boy :- How are you?
Girl :- I m fine and u ?
Boy :- Me too Fi9
Mujhe tumse kuchh kehna tha
Girl :- Haan Bolo
Boy:-I like u do u like me
Girl:- no. no
Boy:- I Love You Very Much. You are My World.
Girl :- sorry I hate u
Ladka Rone lagta hai aur wahan se chala jaatahai
Ladki Use Ignore Karke 2 dino baad Study ke liye wahan se door Chali jaati hai
.
Ladka Uski Yaad me man hi man mein udaas Rahne laga
par duniya ke samne joothi muskan liye man hi man me us ladki ki yad mein hi rahata tha
24 Hours us ladki ki yaado mein
duba rehta hai
1 Din uska friend uske ghar aata hai
Jab use maloom hua ki uske friend ke haalat us ladki ki wajah se hui to usne usse puchha
Friend :-"Jab Wo Tumhe Pyar Nahi Karti to tumuse kyu pyar karta ho?
Tumhe aur koi chahne wali mil jaayegi.
Tab Ladke Ne Jo Answer Diya
Usse uski frnd Ki aankhe niche ho gayi
Ladke Ne Bola :-
"HASEEL KARKE TO HAR KOI PYAR KAR SAKTA HAI
MAGAR
KHOKAR BHI KISI KO CHAHNA HI ASLI PYAR HAI''
[ MORAL :- LOVE is not about making
your LOVER yours at any cost..
LOVE is all about LOVING blindly,
even if your lover doesnt love you] ♥
12 Warning Signs That It’s Emotional Infidelity – And Not ‘Just Friendship’
A new sort of infidelity has been on the rise for decades, and it’s one of the biggest threats to marriage: ‘emotional affairs.’ Today’s workplace has become the new danger zone of opportunities for ‘emotional affairs,’ surpassed only by the Internet.
A relationship without sex can be just as intense, or more so than a sexual one. Not surprisingly, in most cases, approximately 80% according to Dr. Shirley Glass, author of Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity, the dynamics of these platonic liaisons crosses over into sexual love sooner or later.
Why the crisis?
To understand the intensity of emotional infidelity, it helps to see the dynamics as an addiction, a form of addictive love. That’s because it’s easier to let go of a toxic pattern when you depersonalize the experience.
It’s not about ‘how’ special the person is or makes you feel, it’s about the neurochemicals that get activated when you think and behave a certain way that keeps you stuck in the damaging pattern! It isn’t a coincidence, for example, that persons with alcohol and other addictions are more likely to get into toxic relationships. Seeing the problem as an addiction also gives you access to proven steps to identify and break free of the toxic patterns.
Why addictive?
An addiction to an activity, person or substance puts a person’s brain and body in an intoxicating trance that, on the one hand, does not allow them to think clearly and make informed choices, and on the other hand, ‘rewards’ them for the toxic behavior with the release of certain chemicals that provide quick-fixes of pleasure in the body. Albeit temporary, there is also pleasure from lowering or numbing pain, shame or guilt, as it provides distance from taking responsibility to resolve the real issues of life and marriage (which risk failure).
In the The Addictive Personality: Understanding the Addictive Process and Compulsive Behavior Craig Nakken provides the following definition for addiction, as:
“A pathological love and trust relationship with an object [person] or event … the out-of-control and aimless searching for wholeness, happiness, and peace through a relationship with an object or event.”
It makes sense that so many depressives and alcoholics find themselves in toxic relationships.
What are the warning signs?
There are at least 12 warning signs to alert you to take action to protect yourself and your relationship from ‘emotional infidelity.’
1. Thinking and saying you’re ‘just friends’ with opposite-sex.
If you’ve been thinking or saying, “we’re just friends,” think again. If it’s a member of the opposite sex, you may be swimming in treacherous waters. The very words are dangerous to your marriage.
This rationale allows you to make excuses, or more plainly, to tell lies (to yourself and others) about something you know in your gut is wrong. Regardless how strongly TV and entertainment promote the idea of opposite-sex friendships (and this is part of the problem!) as not only ‘okay,’ but also ‘right’ to demand unconditional trust, in most cases, an intimate friendship with a member of the opposite-sex that you find interesting and attractive poses risks.
2. Treating them as a confidant, sharing intimate issues.
Sharing thoughts and deepest concerns, hopes and fears, passions and problems is what deepens intimacy; it builds an emotional bond between two people, time better used in marriage relationship. Giving this away to another person, regardless of the justification, is infidelity, a betrayal of trust. This is especially true when you consider that emotional intimacy is the most powerful bond in human relationships, much stronger than a sexual one.
3. Discussing troubling aspects of your marriage and partner.
Talking or venting to a person of the opposite sex about what your marriage lacks, what your partner lacks, or what you’re not getting to make you happy sends a loud message that you’re available for someone else to ‘love and care’ for your needs. It’s also a breach of trust. And, like gossip, it creates a false sense of shared connection, and an illusion that you, your happiness, your comfort and needs are totally valued by this person (when, in truth, this has not been put to the test!).
4. Comparing them verbally and mentally to your partner.
Another danger sign is a thinking pattern that increasingly finds what is ‘positive’ and ‘just right’ about the friend and ‘negative’ and ‘unfulfilling’ about the partner. This builds a case ‘for’ the friend and ‘against’ the partner. Another mental breach of trust, this unfairly builds a physiologically felt case ‘for’ the friend and ‘against’ the partner, forming mental images in the brain that associate pleasurable and painful sensations accordingly.
5. Obsessively thinking or daydreaming about the person.
If you find yourself looking forward to seeing the person, cannot wait to share news, think about what you’re going to tell them when you’re apart, and imagine their excitement, you’re in trouble. This sense of expectation, excitement, anticipation releases dopamine in reward centers of your brain, reinforcing toxic patterns. Obsessively thinking about the person is an obvious signal that something is wrong. After all, you don’t do this with your friends, right?
6. Believing this person ‘gets’ you like no other.
It always appears this way in affairs and romantic encounters at the start. It’s an illusion, and in the case of emotional infidelity, one that is dangerous to a marriage because the sense of mutual ‘understanding’ forms a bond that strengthens and deepens emotional intimacy, with the release of pleasurable neurochemicals, such as the love and safety hormone oxytocin. This focus also puts you in a ‘getting’ frame of mind. It means you are approaching your marriage in terms of what you’re getting or not getting, rather than what you’re contributing.
7. Pulling out of regular activities with your partner, family, work.
Being absorbed with desire to spend more and more time talking, sharing, being with the person, it’s only natural to begin to resent time you spend on responsibilities and activities at home (and work?). As a result, you begin to pull away, turn down, or make excuses for not joining regular activities with your partner and family. Family members notice you are withdrawn, irritable and unhappy.
8. Keeping what you do secret and covering up your trail.
Secrecy itself is a warning sign. It creates a distinct closeness between two people, and at the same time grows the distance between them and others. Secrets create a special bond, most often an unhealthy one. For example, there may be a false sense of emotional safety and trust with the person, and an unwarranted mistrust and suspicion of the partner, or those who try to interfere with the ‘friendship.’
9. Keeping a growing list of reasons that justify your behaviors.
This involves an addictive pattern of thinking that focuses your attention on how unhappy you are, why you’re unhappy, and blames your partner and marriage for all aspects of your unhappiness. It builds a dangerous sense of entitlement and forms a pool of resentment from which you feel justified to mistreat your partner or do what you need to increase your happiness without considering the consequences.
10. Fantasizing about a love or sexual relationship with the person.
At some point, one or both persons begin to fantasize about having a love or sexual relationship with the other. They may begin to have discussions about this, which adds to the intensity, the intrigue and the intoxicating addictive releases of neurochemicals that make the pattern more entrenched.
11. Giving or receiving personal gifts from the person.
Another flag is when the obsession affects your buying behaviors, so that you begin to think about this person when you are shopping, wondering what they like or would show your appreciation. The gift choices are something intimate items that you would not give ‘just’ a friend. Gifts send clear messages that the two of you are a ‘close we’ set apart from others, and that the relationship is ‘special.’
12. Planning to spend time alone together or letting it happen.
This is the warning sign that, when not heeded, most often pushes partners to cross the line from a platonic to a sexual relationship. Despite good intentions and promises to one another that they would not let ‘anything’ happen, it’s a set up, a matter of time, when opposite-sex friends flirt with the availability of time alone.
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